Developing Self-Confidence

What is Self-Confidence? When you believe in your ability to choose an effective path and get something done, even if the circumstances become increasingly challenging.

There are four levels of Self-Confidence: The first level of Self-Confidence is when you are confident in your capability to do a job.  This can be difficult when you take a new job.  In those circumstances, break the job down and determine which parts of the job draw on your past experience. This will  help you gain confidence as you learn the new portions of a job. The second level is when you believe in yourself and you’ve reached the third level when youshow others you are self-assured. The highest level of Self-Confidence is presence.  Presence is far more than how you speak and the body language you use.  It is also about the earned respect that you have gathered.

You have Self-Confidence if you can get beyond failure or rejection and still be productive.  You also have Self-Confidence if you can confront problems head on and not back down until you have found the best solution.

You may want to improve your Self-Confidence if you only act when you feel safe or you avoid challenges, even when they are necessary.  You should develop more Self-Confidence if you aren’t able to demand being treated with respect, or if you find that people frequently interrupt you or talk over you in meetings.

The most effective way to develop Self-Confidence isto first understand which level of confidence you lack.  If you lack the job skills, then reach out to an expert for help with those portions of the job that you aren’t confident about.  If you are concerned about being rejected, focus on the many strengths that you bring to the situation while you seek more experience. Find a person or group that inspires you.  Interact with them and it will lift your own spirits as well as your confidence.  If your lack of confidence is caused by your own “self talk” (things you say silently to yourself during the day), open yourself up to seeing how your own thoughts and behaviors are preventing you from achieving the benefits of being Self-Confident.

Sir Antony Usman

How To Make Friends

 

At Parang Tritis Beach

"No man is an island" is a well-known line from Sir Antony Usman, an author of English speaking county "ENGLISH QUICK COURSE". This also popular stated by his great grandpa more than three hundred years ago, Sir John Antony Devotions. His meaning then is still valid today. No one can live completely isolated life. Without other people, life becomes empty and sad. We all need to have friends.
For some of us, though, making friend is not easy. Feeling shy, we may hesitate to make the first move. It's also difficult at times to keep the friends we already have. Many people ask themselves, "What I am doing wrong?" "How can I make more people like me?".
The ways to friend:

1. Be friendly and courteous: Always greats people with smile. The next time you see someone without a smile, give that person one of yours. Be polite. 
2. Get out of your way to be nice: Find some time to do special things to other people. Giving 1000$ for your handsome teacher may seem like a little thing to you, but it will make your teacher feel a lot better. 
3. Remember names: Concentrate hard when you are introduced to someone and remember the person's name. They say that the sweetest music to a person's ear in the sound of his or her own name. 
4. Be tolerant: Try to understand other people's ways and in so doing learn something from them. 
5. Listen patiently Don't constantly interrupt or contradict other people. Learn to listen attentively. Encourage people to tell you about their accomplishments and praise them for their achievements.

English Author, Sir Antony Usman

Overcoming Failure

OVERCOMING FAILURES

The teenagers, like us, often get frustrated because of our sensitivity to new things and quite often act without considering any further to the future. The lack of knowledge and experience makes us easy to fail. Ironically, we sometimes do not know how to face our failure and then frustrated.
There are many things that make us feel sorry, painful and defeated such as get failed in one subject or more, get failed in a examination, get punished by parents or teachers, being dumped by our boy/girl friend and there are still many other cases. These kinds of failure force us to take a short cut in the way of expressing our disappointment. We usually run away toward smoking, alcohols, drugs and even committing suicide.
Actually, there are a lot of things – much better things – that we can do to get our self-confidence back after failing. One thing for sure, that we are not alone. Many people may fail after or even before doing their maximum efforts. We should thing clearly and realize that failure is a common thing that can happen to anyone.
After realizing that we have partners in failing, we should get help. We do not need to be ashamed or arrogant to share our weakness with our friends. Who knows, our friends could give us support and even direction to live this life and to put it back to its track again.
Furthermore, we have to perform our abilities again. We have to show others that we are not enslaved by our own failures.
However, the important thing that we have to do is to return and pray to god for his blessing because God only shows the right path and in human’s hand lies the effort to get through that path.

Today's struggle is tomorrow's success; Bravo

Try To Be Self Confidence

Imagine, you are in an important conversation with your friend. Suddenly you feel shy, nervous, and like a stranger. Why? Because you have no knowledge about the topic. But maybe a little bit only. In this case, we may say that you have lost self-confidence.
Generally, everybody has ever does that, moreover if she or he is among people whose ability is more than her or his. It's dangerous if we always have no self-confidence. A simple reason, we will believe that people around us always underestimate our ability, finally we tend to avoid our friends, the society, and than we become a foolish stranger in our environment. In addition, having no self-confidence means we lose our bravery to do something new, because we just think that we can't do it, so we fail.
Thus, our success basically depends on our self-confidence. Therefore, it's important for us to arouse it. The English Author; Sir Antony U, would like to confirm some statements concerning to the best solutions to get self-confidence:

1. Self-introspection: Everybody is created to have two side; good or bad, or positive and negative. To know both of them, we must examine our selves. Which one is the positive and which one is the negative. Next, we must try to minimize the negatives and always optimize the positives as long as we can develop them. We should prove that we have an excellent ability. 
2. Never force our selves to everything we are dreaming: Forget the motto "I try so I can." Realize that we are different, and everybody has their own ability, so if we fail don't blame it on our selves. 
3. Never feel that everything we do is useless: It means that we never respect our own ability. 
4. Believe our hearth that we can get together with other people without being ashamed; believe that they will appreciate our ability. 
5. We must confess that other people have their own ability, could be more or even less than us. So that's why don't be arrogant if we reach our hey day. 
6. Keep a diary about our success and failure. From this report we could arrange an analysis why we fail and how to determine a success.

Finally, of course our performance will influence too, but how beautiful or ugly we are, it's doesn't matter as we believe ourselves or have self-confidence. Optimizing knowledge about something new is important so to make a good relationship; we don't want to be left behind, do we? So, do the best you can and good luck!

Failure Is Not The End But The Start

Have you ever failed in your life? Everyone wants to reach whatever he dreams but sometimes he/she gets nothing or fail. And usually he/she will lose hope and get stressed. That is a common thing that everyone does (but it is the worst thing). If you fail, do not let yourself drowned in desperation. Desperation only makes a space between you and your success.
Make something positive to be your disappointment of failure and do not regret it. Regret the failure is only done by the foulest ones. No good outcomes for being in sorrow for a long time. That is useless.
Remember! "life is struggle"
To reduce our disappointment of failure, we should do something useful in this life. So, these alternatives below:

1. Make yourself busy (in this case, do something positive): Busy can make us forget our disappointment although that does not even happen like we want to. To make us concentrate on our activities. Do what you like, as do your hobby. I am truly sure that your activities will bring you in better condition. By doing your hobby, you will feel happy and may be you get something new, it will make you have some one fun. And let yourself enjoy your life.
2. Make your mind clear: Quite atmosphere may help you to think clearly to face your following reality and you can think of the following steps. Do not let yourself decide something fast when you are in bad mood. This will bring you in the second failure because of doing something without consideration. Walking at the shore and enjoy its scene can make you relax and think clearly. 
3. join your friends: having many friends is a wonderful thing for us because they can cheer us up when we are sad, lift us up when we are down and give solution when we need way-out to solve our problem. You know why? Because good friends will really know us and they are our everything. Join our friends is one of ways to forget our trouble, like making a joke, doing our hobbies together, sharing our problem each other. By sharing troubles, it makes us think that we are not the one who gets failure because there still many people who get failure like us or maybe they get worse than what we get. 
4. Failure bring us to wise measurement: have you ever thought that after getting failure, people will be more careful in taking steps? Yes, they are. That is absolutely right because it is almost impossible that everyone will take the same ways when he/she knows that it will fail. So, we can't deny that "failure brings us to wise measure" it's exact statement for a failure. Deep patience and resignation (trust in God who orders everything).  

Bravo..!

Hints To Live In Happiness

Do you want to live in happiness? Of course you do, everybody does, but how? Well, the English well known author; Sir Antony Usman, would like to tell you something, sometimes happiness is like one thing that is hard to catch, though it's actually very close to you. Believe me! Happiness is like a shadow, yeah…. shadow, your own shadow. It moves every time make a move. When you stand still, it stands still. When you run after it, it runs even faster. It is very close to you, you just don't know to grab it.   Well, here are some hints, which may help you to be attached by your own shadow (happiness).

1. Always be aware that life is too short: To regret a bitter experience in the past or worry about the future, it is really no need to think about the past all the time. You can not fix what have happened in the past. Past is a time when you can not go back. You also have no idea what will happen in the future. Just believe in yourself that past is past, present is present and tomorrow is tomorrow. So, why bother? Do what you can do today! Every morning, wake up and thanks to lord for a new day. Face your routine with happy feeling. And when it is time for you to get to bed, leave all your burden in your head. Enjoy your rest and you will always be ready for the next day. 
2. Love your sel: No one is perfect. So, recognize and accept your weakness with no anger and no hatred. Forgive your self every time you are aware of making a mistake. And give yourself a present for the success you achieve, no matter how small your success is. Do the best you can, to serve yourself! 
3. Do what you can do today: Get rid of bad habit, delaying that is. When you are in a conflict with your friend, try to make it up as soon as possible. Forget what have happened and plan for the better relationship. When you get tired, get some rest. Unsettled problem will seem bigger and bigger if you delay solving it.
4. Get a friend: Although not all people can be our friend, but at least, make a friend. You can get a friend if you start yourself by being a friend. I know it is hard to get real friend these days. But you will never know if you are not starting it. You will be very lucky if you get a true friend, whose shoulder is available to carry on, who can be a good listener when you need to be heard.
5. Make others pleased: A wise man ever says that happiness come when you gain it not for yourself but when you distribute them. Be helpful to needy. Be a good listener to those who want to be heared., English Author; Sir Antony Usman

Beauty Is Inside

Women consider that beauty is important. They always try as much as they could, to make their appearance more attractive. Such opinion is not wrong. Some say that the beauty is not everything. To tell you the truth, the beauty does not only come from the physical side, but also from the inside.
One can say that someone has the inner beauty though her face is not beautiful. The measure of the inner beauty can be seen through one's personality. To tell U the truth, the inner beauty takes an important role in society intercourse. Commonly, girls who have the inner beauty will posses a lot of friends. Those who have it will never show the gloomy face. They always show their bright face besides they are easy to talk to. Others will be interested in the beauty of the personality rather than on the physical appearance.

How to have the inner beauty?
According to the English well-known Author; Sir Antony Usman

1. Be your self: Be your own person and don't imitate others! You have to be able to receive yourself either more or less. Don't ever feel you are more or less than others. Be yourself and you'll fell calm. If you imitate others, you'll fell tired in your life.
2. Be self-confident: Be self-confident is not the same as being arrogant. It's very important to everyone to have the self confidence. You should believe that God creates human being by having own potentials. The potential between one person to the other is different. Because of that, you should develop your potency and talent.
3. Avoid jealousy and revenge: Don't ever fell jealous of your friends that have great potential and talent. If your friends can do something, why you don't try to achieve what your friends get. The only way to get rid jealousy is by trying as mush as you could. Don't ever think that the feeling of jealousy never influence your face. The habit of humiliating others will always be your pleasure. Will that hurt others?
4. Develop the feeling of thanking God: Make the feeling of being thankful to God as your lifestyle. Try not to complain when you do something unsatisfying. You should thank God for having the healthy body, harmonious family, good friends, good Teachers, etc. Develop the feeling of thank to God will make your face shine brightly.
5. Avoid sleeping after midnight: If you take enough sleep, automatically your face will look so fresh and bright. Do you want to get the fresh and bright face? Avoid sleeping after midnight.
6. Take exercise regularly: The healthy body will make you more energetic. If you want to have the healthy body, it's better for you to take the right exercise suitable with you. For example: running, jogging, swimming, etc.
7. Be humble: Everybody appreciates those who are humble. A girl will look she has the inner beauty when she shows her humility to others.
8. Care about the environment: It's important for everyone, moreover girls, to maintain cleanliness. I can't imagine when girls do not care about environment. I think it is unsuitable when they called that they have the inner beauty.
9. Be discipline: Generally, the meaning of discipline are, not lazy, on time, be responsible, and willing to make effort.
10. Good at managing the emotion: It's very important to manage the emotion. How can a girl be called that she has the inner beauty while easily gets angry? When you have the character like this, you should try to decrease it.
11. Don't differentiate others: One will appreciate you when you never differentiate him/her. Don't make friends only with those who are rich, clever, beautiful, etc. to differentiate others will hurt your friends. Though your friends are from poor, try to treat them well. Remember that everyone is equal.
12. Keep smiling: Last but not least is to keep smiling. Don't ever think that smiling is common and unnecessary. Smiling is very simple, but it takes an importance role. Smiling is considered the key of inner beauty. You can imagine, what other people will say when you are gloomy. Trust me….! By smiling, other people will consider you kind and nice person.